ENM Foundations
Level 1: 6-Week Virtual Workshop
7pm – 9pm PST Weekly
Begins March 4, 2025
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Introductory Valentine’s Day Special
This is the lowest price this workshop will ever be!
6-Week Course for a Couple – $750 $450
6-Week Course for a Single – $375 $225
6-Week Course for a Throuple – $950 $570
Prices go up 2/15/24
Enroll Now and Pay Later for Only $100
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Strengthen your relationships, deepen your connections, and gain the tools to navigate the complexities of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) with clarity and intention. Whether you’re new to ENM, or have been practicing for years, this six-week interactive program is designed to enhance your relationship health, refine your skills, and help you grow individually and together.
This is more than just learning—it’s about building a strong foundation and improving your relationship with yourself and your partner(s). You’ll explore critical elements like communicating effectively, discussing fantasies, and creating agreements. Learn to work through common challenges such as jealousy and unmet expectations. And, you’ll do this meaningful work alongside other Illuminaughty members, creating a shared language and forming lasting bonds.
Week 1
Foundations
Week 2
Exploring Fantasies
Week 3
Navigating Jealousy
Week 4
ENM in the Wild
In-Person Practice
(Optional)
Week 5
Group Discussion
Week 6
Integration
All classes are recorded and available for attendees who have to miss a week. Even if you can’t attend live, you can still take advantage of the experiential elements of the course and submit questions in between classes.
Week 1: Foundations
Boundaries, Agreements, and Communication
Date: Tuesday, March 4th 7-9pm PST
Facilitator: Scott Catamas
A strong foundation is the key to thriving in ENM, and this week will equip you with essential tools to establish and maintain healthy relationships. You’ll learn how to set clear personal boundaries, create relationship agreements that reflect your needs and desires, and communicate effectively to ensure clarity and trust between you and your partners. This session will introduce practical techniques like active listening, “I” statements, and conflict resolution strategies that will help you navigate discussions with confidence. Whether you are new to ENM or have years of experience, this week will provide a structured framework to support your relationships and give you tools to approach conversations with intentionality.
Week 2: Exploring Fantasies
Creating a Shared Vision
Date: Thursday, March 13th 7-9pm PST
Facilitator: Dr. Alison Ash
Desire is a powerful force in relationships, but discussing fantasies can sometimes feel vulnerable or intimidating. This week, we’ll focus on creating a safe space to explore your desires and express them with confidence. You’ll learn how to share fantasies in a way that fosters deeper intimacy while respecting the comfort levels of everyone involved. We’ll also discuss what to do when desires don’t align—how to navigate differences with curiosity instead of fear and find creative ways to honor both personal needs and relational agreements. Through structured exercises, you’ll begin crafting a shared vision with your partner(s), opening new pathways to pleasure and connection.
Week 3: Navigating Jealousy
Conquering Difficult Emotions
Date: Tuesday, March 18th 7-9pm PST
Facilitators: Dr. Chandra Khalifian & Dr. Kayla Knopp
Jealousy, insecurity, and comparison are natural emotional factors that arise in any relationship structure, but in ENM, learning to recognize, process, and reframe these feelings is especially important. This week, we’ll break down why jealousy happens, what it’s telling you, and how to use it as a tool for personal growth rather than a source of conflict. You’ll gain practical strategies for self-regulation, emotional processing, and shifting from reactive to intentional responses. This session also explores other difficult emotions that can surface in ENM—like fear of abandonment, insecurity, or feeling “less than” a partner’s other connections—offering mindfulness practices and communication tools to build resilience and strengthen your emotional well-being.
Week 4: ENM in the Wild
Preparing for Challenges in-Person
Date: Tuesday, March 25th 7-9pm PST
Facilitator: Nori Crain
Practicing ENM or attending ENM events can be exciting, but it also comes with unique dynamics that require preparation and intentionality. This week, we’ll cover everything you need to know to feel confident and prepared for a date or an event. We’ll cover etiquette and logistics, practical language for handling situations and communicating interest or disinterest, and managing expectations and aftercare. You’ll also learn how to recognize and navigate common relationship challenges, including what to do if an agreement is broken, how to communicate about unmet expectations, and strategies for handling unexpected feelings that may arise. Whether you’re preparing for your first event or looking to refine your approach, this week will ensure you walk in (and out) of an event feeling grounded, prepared, and empowered.
In-Person Practice
(Optional)
Date: Sunday, March 30th
This week, it’s time to put all of this work into practice! Join your fellow Illuminaughty members face-to-face at a special social mixer in your local region to share experiences, deepen bonds, and celebrate your journey in a welcoming, supportive environment. Or, setup a date on your own time before the next class, that suits your relationship and desires. Practice what we’ve learned, discuss boundaries and desires, work on communication, and have fun exploring and experimenting.
Next week, we’ll discuss how it went and what we all learned.
Week 5: Group Discussion
Challenges, Wins, and Insights
Date: Tuesday, April 1st 7-9pm PST
Facilitator: Nori Crain
No one thrives in ENM alone—building a strong support network is crucial for success. This week is designed as a community-focused discussion, where you’ll have the opportunity to connect with others, share about your in-person experience, and gain insight from fellow Illuminaughty members. Through guided discussions and breakout groups, we’ll explore common themes, challenges, and breakthroughs in ENM, allowing you to learn from a diversity of perspectives. This session is a chance to reflect on your journey, celebrate progress, and find solidarity in a community that understands the nuances of ENM.
Week 6: Integration
Self-Care and Building Community
Date: Tuesday, April 8th 7-9pm PST
Facilitator: Emily Orum
Flourishing in ENM isn’t just about your relationships—it’s also about your individual growth and well-being. This week, we’ll focus on personal self-care practices, maintaining emotional balance, and ensuring that your relationship dynamics support your long-term happiness. You’ll explore how to balance independence and connection, develop practices for emotional resilience, and integrate ENM into your life in a way that aligns with your personal values. This final session includes a reflection exercise to help you set personal and relational goals moving forward and a closing circle to celebrate the progress you’ve made throughout the series.
This program is more than just learning—it’s about creating a thriving, supportive, and empowered ENM experience. Each week builds on the last, providing you with the foundational skills, tools, and insights to deepen your relationships, strengthen your communication, and navigate challenges with confidence. Plus, with opportunities to meet other Illuminaughty members in person, you’ll have a chance to turn these connections into lasting friendships and support networks.
Introductory Valentine’s Day Special
This is the lowest price this workshop will ever be!
6-Week Course for a Couple – $750 $450
6-Week Course for a Single – $375 $225
6-Week Course for a Throuple – $950 $570
Prices go up 2/15/24
Enroll Now and Pay Later option available.
Enroll now for $100 down and lock in this introductory price. Balance due March 1, 2025. Workshop begins March 4, 2025.
Refer a friend to this event:
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Meet the Facilitators
Scott Catamas is an Emmy Award-winning relationship coach and founder of Love Coach Academy. Scott specializes in compassionate communication and conflict resolution, providing practical tools for enhancing communication, setting clear boundaries and creating meaningful relationship agreements.
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Dr.Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. Dr. Aly invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love.
Dr. Chandra Khalifian is a clinical psychologist, researcher, educator (CA PSY 31914), and founder of enamory.org. She focuses on developing and evaluating couple-based interventions for relationship distress and mental health, including enhancement of evidence-based treatments with psychedelics. At Enamory, she works with people in relationships and specializes in non-monogamy, sexual expansion, and psychedelic-assisted therapy. She teaches her work at conferences all over the world.
Dr. Kayla Knopp (she/her) is a clinical psychologist, researcher, and educator (CA PSY 32016) who specializes in helping people build expansive, empowering, and creative intimate relationships. She has experience working with people holding diverse identities and participating in diverse relationship types and structures, as well as working with trauma, mental health diagnoses, and emotion dysregulation. She is also one of only a few people worldwide trained in psychedelic-assisted couple therapy.
Nori Crain is a trauma-informed transformation and recovery coach, as well as a certified addiction recovery and psycho-spiritual integration coach. Throughout her career, she’s supported those facing extreme traumas, including survivors of abuse and marginalized individuals. She focuses on the intricate relationship between the autonomic nervous system and the central nervous system, emphasizing empathy and empowerment. Nori is also an Illuminaughty community leader in Austin, TX.
Emily Orum (she, they) a.k.a. The Heart Ninja, is a pioneer and expert of sexual self mastery, intimacy, love, personal empowerment, and alternative lifestyle relating. Emily’s Heart Ninja tool belt is extensive, embodying the tools of emotional, somatic, and erotic intelligence, codependence recovery, and over 15 years of therapeutic modalities and practices. She has achieved numerous certifications in a range of skills and gifts as a Bodyworker, Sexual Pioneer, Sound Healer, Tantrika, Dom(me), and Visionary Craniosacral Practitioner.
Refunds are available up to 5 days prior to event start. 5% CC fee is non-refundable.
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