What To Expect
We acknowledge that this world can be very intimidating for a beginner. The questions, excitement, anxiety, and fears you may be feeling are completely normal and we have all been there. Illuminaughty is a community of like-minded people and friends who share a passion for experiencing the pleasures that life has to offer. Members are in good company with caring people excited to meet new like-minded friends. There are no judgements or expectations.
We host a variety of event types. Some are for all members and some are limited to couples and women only. There is no cost for membership but you must apply and be approved. There is a fee and more extensive application process for single men.
This application process is how we vet and curate our community. Our members are fit, active people in their 20s and 30s with a select few in their 40s. They are friendly, respectful, self-aware, and articulate. If approved, members will be granted login access to purchase event tickets and be added to our invite list to receive all event invites via email/text.
Events are designated by type:
- Illuminaughty Haven events are open to couples and single women only. No single men are allowed. This creates a uniquely welcoming and comfortable atmosphere for couples and bi-sexual or bi-curious ladies. The vibe is relaxed, playful, and experimental. The crowd is full of curious couples and single women interested in exploring fantasies and piles of beautiful women playing together are common.
- Illuminaughty Eros events are open to couples, single women, and a small number of single men. Our single male members are carefully selected to be intelligent, self-aware, respectful, confident, and gym fit. The number will be adjusted as single female tickets are sold to gender balance the event.
Tease Cocktail Mixers
Tease cocktail mixers are hosted at restaurants or bars where we can reserve a private area or the entire venue for our members. Tease mixers are not public and you must be a member to purchase a ticket and attend. Tease mixers are a great place to meet and chat with many other members in a casual environment to get a taste of what illuminaughty is all about.
Estate & Mansion Parties
Our exclusive estate & mansion parties are where the real fun happens. Estate parties are typically 60-90 people and mansion parties 120+. First timers are common so don’t worry if that’s you, you’re not the only one to be nervous. Illuminaughty parties are carefully curated to create a safe, sexy, and low pressure environment and there is no expectation to participate. You get to choose your own adventure. It’s perfectly acceptable to just hang out and watch, or stay with your partner the entire evening. Voyeurism IS participation.
Estate and mansion parties will have a dress theme and members are expected to follow the theme and dress to impress. This means women either wear formal cocktail attire and bring a sexy change of clothes for later in the evening, or wear lingerie and overcoat. Men typically wear suits and stylish men are encourage to take liberties.
There will be a variety of rooms setup for your enjoyment. One room will have two massage tables side-by-side. Another may have a giant bed that can fit a bunch of people. Another may have some BDSM and kink toys, etc. Parties are filled with excited couples and singles looking to connect with others. There’s sometimes a little BDSM and kink play, but it’s typically not the focus at our events.
Estate and mansion parties have an arrival time window (typically from 7-8:30pm) and members are expected to be punctual. Doors close at 8:30. At 8:45 we give a brief opening speech to share logistics of the location, discuss consent and safety, and review rules and communication best practices. Then, we turn everyone loose to play. Parties are BYOB, so bring whatever you’d like to drink for yourself or to share. We will provide a variety of mixers. (Pro tip: arrive earlier in the arrival window so you have more time to meet new people and chat and flirt over drinks before the party really kicks off.)