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Leather and Lace
October 4, 2025
Saturday 8pm to 2am
San Diego, CA
(Encinitas)
Couples, Single Ladies, Non-binary, & Limited Single Men
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LEATHER AND LACE LIFESTYLE PARTY – SAN DIEGO, CA
Join us for the Illuminaughty Leather and Lace Party at a stylish home in the Encinitas complete with multiple playrooms, a spa, and massage tables. As you enter and the door closes softly behind you, the room breathes with quiet tension, alive with the presence of bodies draped in lace and bound by leather. Under your coat, you can feel the soft lace against your chest. Everywhere you look, there are contrasts—beautiful curves wrapped in delicate lace but a thick choker holds her neck tight. Soft stockings meet thigh high boots and leather harnesses gleam against bare skin, cutting bold patterns across the body.
The air carries the faint scent of perfume and warm skin, the sound of laughter blending with the low hum of music. Couples lean close in whispered conversation, fingers brushing, eyes searching. Strangers exchange glances that feel charged, daring, a silent question asked and answered in the space of a heartbeat.
Nothing here is rushed. Every glance, every touch, every invitation is deliberate. Boundaries are honored, silence is respected, but communication is paramount. That’s the spell of the night: safety that allows you to surrender and trust that releases desires. Are you coming to play?
DRESS CODE
This is a sexy leather and lace swinger party. Don your sexiest lace, your naughtiest leather, or embrace the contrast. Wear as much or as little as you like, nothing is too sexy or too extravagant. Men dress to the theme or wear suits. Stylish men, feel free to take liberties. We can’t wait to see you. We only ask that you keep it PG between the car and the house before and after the event.
You are welcome to bring a change of a clothes for later in the evening.
Doors open at 8:00pm and you must arrive by 9:30. We will close the doors at 9:30 and have a brief orientation to discuss rules & consent. Everyone must attend, no exceptions.
Pro Tip: Arrive closer to 8pm so you have time to meet lots of sexy new friends as they arrive, before the party gets busy, especially if it’s your first event.
This party is BYOB. We will provide cups, champagne glasses and a variety of mixers for your use.
→ The venue address will be emailed to all ticket holders on the morning of the event.
Refunds are available up to 5 days prior to event start. 5% CC fee is non-refundable.
*VOLUNTEERS READ*
We put in a lot of work to make these events amazing for our community and your help is greatly appreciated. We count on our volunteers, which means it’s very hard on us if you cancel, especially last minute. So please consider this and let us know as early as possible if you cannot make it. As a thank you for helping, you will receive free entry to enjoy the event.
If you sign up to volunteer and no-call no-show, your Illuminaughty membership will be cancelled.
Nearby hotels for out-of-town guests:
Hampton Inn ($$) 1661 Villa Cardiff Dr, Cardiff, CA 92007•(760) 944-0427
Days Inn ($$) 133 Encinitas Blvd, Encinitas, CA 92024•(760) 456-5097
What is Illuminaughty?
Illuminaughty is a curated community that is known for the caliber of our members and the unique welcoming and playful environment we create. There are no expectations and our focus is on safety and consent to ensure everyone feels comfortable. Most of our members are in their 30s, and we don’t hire any models, performers, or influencers to be at our events. All of the beautiful, kind, and inspiring people who show up are members who are there connect with like-minded souls.
